Women have it bad. They are always held to a higher standard than men. That’s not always a bad thing because I do think there are certain things that are acceptable for a man that’s not acceptable for a woman:
I definitely think that women should always be more on-point with hygiene and I think they should maintain some mystery about themselves with certain things.
Having said all of that, I think women catch the short end of the stick when it comes to a lot of things, but especially sex. Women are always held to a higher standard and although it is commendable, I do think there are times when a woman expresses herself sexually that men (and some other women) criticize unnecessarily.
Here is an example:
A man should be happy to see a woman with a top drawer of condoms next to her bed.
A guy goes out with a lady and they have a vibe going. It’s a first date, but the tension is high and he can tell that it could lead to something later. He arrives at her house and before you know it, the clothes hit the floor and she’s ready to do the horizontal mambo. He then pause and informs her that he doesn’t have a condom. She tells him not to worry and goes into her top drawer to pull out one.
To a lot of guys, this is what comes to mind: “Uh, oh. If she has condoms readily available in her top drawer, then she must be a ho.”
Wrong answer. A woman who would let you “smang it” without a condom is more likely a ho than one who has one. Maybe this lady is just prepared. Guys need to get the image out of their head that a woman with condoms is a ho. I mean, it’s a possibility, but it could also mean that she’s just responsible.
Most babies are conceived and most diseases are transmitted from people who are not prepared. Maybe this lady should be applauded rather than criticized. Fellas, don’t assume that a woman with a condom in her purse has a longer line than In-N-Out. Okay, maybe I should have used another restaurant name, but you get my point.
Ladies have it rough because in a country where men made the rules during the days that women were not even allowed to vote, there are still a lot of things that men think are unacceptable for women, but are acceptable for men. Let’s do away with the prehistoric thinking and recognize that rules that were created 200 years ago on what a woman should be do not apply to today’s female.
While women should act like queens in order to be treated as such, we men have to do away with some of the double standards.
And to the ladies, stop letting society dictate the things you do. You can be you without worrying about what some shallow-minded person thinks.
Stop letting people guilt you into thinking you’re a bad person when you’re not.
My friend, Chaplain Donna, posted an absolutely brilliant piece on “being the good girl” that will release you from the mental chains that society has placed on you. Click the link, open the new window, and be free. 🙂