Deal Breakers!

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There are simply some things that we just do not accept in our lives. Yet, when it comes to relationships, we always seem to let certain things slide just to prevent remaining single.

Coach Steph ( makes her return to the Talk 2 Q Radio Show to discuss these deal breakers with us!

Should every person have a list of deal breakers?
Should you ever compromise on a deal breaker?
What is your deal breaker? Gold teeth, kids, no job, tattoos, skin color?

All of that and more on #T2Q!


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What Do You Mean "You’re Out?"

Ok, so I’m looking for an evening meal since The Mrs. and I had a late lunch. I go to a local restaurant not too far from my house and grab a seat. The server comes by and asks me what I want to drink. I ask for iced tea and she quickly replies, “I’m sorry, we’re out.”

“What do you mean ‘you’re out’?” I inquire while looking at my watch.

It’s 8:15 PM and the place closes at 9 PM. Now, granted, I’m the only person in the place not sitting at the bar, so it’s safe to say I’m the only one asking for tea. But, still, it’s 45 minutes until close and your response to me is “you’re out?”

“Yes, sir. We’re out. We do have Coke products.” she replied.

Now, since I’ve worked in a restaurant before, I know that it’s nothing to go to the back and brew some fresh tea. Yeah, it seems like a waste to brew a new urn for one person, but given that iced tea is one of the biggest price mark-ups in restaurants, I don’t see the big deal.

I was a bit frustrated, so I chose to go elsewhere since iced tea with my meal, to me, is like morning coffee to half of the world.

Another incident was with a recent trip to another restaurant in the town north of me. Now, I knew based on my experience and their reputation that they tend to be slackers, but it was convenient to go this day. I choose to go inside since I could probably hatch and raise chickens during the time it takes to get served in their drive-thru.

“Here or to go?” the lady asks.

“Wow.” I think to myself. “Not even a ‘welcome to (insert name)’ or anything.”

It’s 830 PM and they close at 9 PM, so I know I’m pushing my luck in getting what I want. “I’ll take a two piece, mild, please?”

“We’re out of mild. All we have are spicy thighs and legs.”

Well, that would be great if I were ordering women, but I’m ordering chicken and I don’t prefer those particular pieces. “What do you mean you’re out? What time do you all close?”

“In 30 minutes, but we’ve been out for 20 minutes now.”

Do you see a theme here? Places that say they close at one time, truly close an hour prior to that time. That’s bad management. I realize that no one wants to get stuck at work when it’s time to leave, but if you’re scheduled to work until 9 PM, then do it. Don’t stop at 8:30 PM and start putting everything up. You do that after you close, not before.

Needless to say, I don’t frequent these places much any more. They’ll probably never miss my presence, but in the long run, it will hurt them. Mainly because I’ve complained about both places to my friends and co-workers. Also, toss in the fact that I review restaurants regularly on Yelp and

It just shows the mentality of some people. They do just enough to get by. Not just in crappy service, but life in general. They do just enough in their relationships, just enough in parenting and just enough in being respectful.

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Woman Training 101

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Another much-needed show! Mylauney Billups rejoins the show along with Tori D. discuss the science of being a lady to the under-30 year olds of the world. Also getting in the mix will be Lady T!

Mylauney, Tori and Lady T

Woman training isn’t as prevalent as it used to be a few generations ago. Some females just don’t know how to be ladies these days. That’s where the panel comes in. Join us as we discuss the following:

How to treat a man
Being a parent
Understanding the roles of a relationship

Straight female chat on #T2Q!

Show #82

Animal Planet Has Turned Into VH1

When I turned on my DirecTV receiver for the very first time in ’97, one of my favorite channels was The Animal Planet. This channel took me back to my childhood and the days of “Mutual of Omaha’s Wild Kingdom” and its host, Marlin Perkins. Mr. Perkins’ show aired weekly and gave an up-close and personal look at animals. A lot of those close looks came via camera zoom which was completely understandable! He was the original Steve Irwin to my generation. His show not only taught you lessons on different animals, but he also would catch many of them to give you a better look. He did so while rarely putting himself or his assistants in danger.

Marlin Perkins

Fast-forward to 2011 and like everything else in the world, animal shows have gone extreme. They don’t just teach about animals any more, they take the most dangerous, yet exciting approach to catching these animals. “Rattlesnake Republic,” “Swamp Wars,” “Dragon Catcher” to name a few. Okay, I made the last one up, but trust me, if dragons existed, some dude in a t-shirt, Umbro shorts and Crocs would catch one bare-handed.

These shows feature people who hunt dangerous animals for a living. Now, that doesn’t sound so bad, but there’s one thing to keep in mind: these people rarely use any special equipment to protect themselves from these animals! The late Steve Irwin used to run through the wilderness in khaki shorts looking for poisonous snakes. During Shark Week, some fool decided to take a swim (with no cage) with tiger sharks… at night. As if doing it during the day wasn’t dangerous enough! And every 15 minutes, I see a commercial of some idiots sticking their hand into underwater logs and caves trying to pull out giant catfish.

“What do you do if you feel a diamond-shaped head and fangs?”

When will it stop? When someone gets eaten? If so, will they air it? I’m all for learning about animals and getting a closer look, but there’s a reason they’re called “wild animals:” they’re unpredictable and potentially dangerous. So, when some 200 lb. catfish drowns one of those hand fishers or some moose, who has his mating session interrupted, decides to kick some trespasser to sleep, then don’t say no one told you so.

Memo to extreme animal catchers: the next time you see a cheetah on the Serengeti and decide that you want a closer look, just stop and ask yourself, “What would Marlin Perkins do?”

He’d break out the zoom lens on his camera, that’s what he’d do.


Uh, oh. Soapbox!

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Yes, it’s back! Once again, I stand on my soapbox and speak my mind about a variety of topics that have been bugging me as of late:

Sandusky, Fine and child molesters

Lonely on Christmas? So what?

What happened to the music I once loved?

Why do light-skinned and dark-skinned black people argue?

Are you sick of people on Facebook wanting attention?

All of these things and more!

Straight ranting on #T2Q!


For Kids or Parents?

Those of you who have followed for a few months know that I’m old school. I try to be open-minded on some things, but for the most part, I start with my roots and go from there.

Look! Homey the Clown is coming!

I have a few problems with kids and their birthdays:

Uno) Having a party at a very young age. If your kid isn’t old enough to hold a fork to eat his / her cake, then why have a party?

Dos) Having a party every single year. Is inviting friends and family over to celebrate really a way to to get your kid free toys and clothing?

Tres) Feeling obligated to attend every birthday party of your child’s daycare because you invited all of them to his / hers.

I’m not saying don’t celebrate your kid’s birthday. My parents had a cake for me every year along with gifts. But, I didn’t have a party every year. I had parties at ages 6, 10, and 12. The reason I remember the ages is because they meant something to me. It meant something to me because my life wasn’t saturated with attending birthday parties every freakin’ year.

Now that I think about it, age 12 is the last time I had a party. Okay, maybe I’m not the best example to follow since I don’t make a big deal out of my birthday.

I don’t need an annual reminder to celebrate life because I do it daily.

(If any of you see that in a book of quotes, please notify me so that I may sue them)

It’s all about me on MY day, baby!

But, the point I’m trying to make is do you want your kid to grow up to be this ———————————————————–>

Let’s be honest. The first three or four annual parties that you have for the little one is not about him / her. It’s about you, the parent. You want to share the celebration with others that you’re baby is a year older. I understand it, but say it. Stop feeding me excuses about how your kid will appreciate it when they’re older. They won’t even remember it. They’re too young. I have a photo of my brother holding me when I was one. Cute photo, but based on my memories, I didn’t know I was in the world until age 3.

You may think that what you’re doing is noble, but you’re putting pressure on your family, friends, and other parents from the daycare who spend every other weekend at someone’s house bringing gifts to a child they hardly even know. (Memo to parents: don’t feel obligated to buy a gift and attend a kid’s party based solely on the fact that it’s your child’s classmate).

When you celebrate every single one, then over time, the spotlight will shift from the parent to the child. In the end, you’ll wind up with some 29-year old pestering you to celebrate their party with them at Applebee’s. SN: if you want to celebrate milestone ages like 16, 18, 21, 25, 30, etc. then I can understand that. But, if you’re trying to rent the club for an odd number birthday like your 29th, then you’re an egomaniac and a loser. Sorry. I’m a Life Ref.

Should a child have a birthday party every year? If so, should it start with Year One?

Who is this party REALLY for?

Saving Souls for Cash?

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Churches used to be a part of communities, but now there’s one on every corner. Are churches more about business than they are saving souls these days?

Is there more focus on growing the membership (and tithes) than there is on truly helping people get closer to God?

Straight religious talk on #T2Q!

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